I’ve had tons and tons of questions about our destination wedding in Minneapolis and all the whimsies so here are all the pretty little details that made up the best day of our lives as well as some tips to staying sane through the wedding planning process!
Keith and I chose to write our own ceremony and our own vows. We wanted the ceremony to mean something to us, more than the standard words written by someone long ago. I scowered the internet for bits of advice and stole some popular quotes and wrote a few of my own. It turned out better than I could’ve ever imagined. Neither of us is particularly religious so our ceremony was light and totally us (plus it ended with a champagne toast). Keith wrote his own vows (one of the few jobs he had in planning the wedding) and I still can’t believe how perfect they were, serious swoon. I was blown away at the compliments we got, and our ring exchange had people rolling. Here are links to our Ceremony Script and Vows. *Get some tissues first*
Aria is the most stunning venue I’ve ever seen, I fell in love with it in the foyer (yes, the foyer with it’s cage chandeliers and industrial feel). What was better than the venue itself was the people working there. Our coordinator, Katey, couldn’t have been more helpful in making sure our day ran smoothly. We chose to have our ceremony in the same space as the reception, which meant that her and her team had to flip the room in an hour moving in tables, setting up centerpieces, installs, chandeliers, etc all in an hour while our guests were in the foyer having cocktails and she NAILED it. Our day was all about adventure and whimsy and while it was indoors, I wanted to capture an outdoor feel. We brought in tree’s with fairy lights, a rustic 6 foot memory wall with old photos of Keith and I over the 15 years we’ve known each other, and lots of adventurous wooden signs. Our guestbook was a gold foil world map and our seating chart was a huge world map with luggage tags symbolizing ‘Country’ tables of all the countries Keith and I had visited together. At each table was a globe table name that coordinated to the seating chart. My florist, Dani, nailed every detail from decorating the ropes on our custom wooden tree swing from the rafters to the floral arch and moss table runner, it felt like a fairy garden in the middle of the industrial space. Adam and his team at Phos hung the swing, several chandeliers, and the magical giant orb with edisons in the middle of the room and coordinated with Dani to decorate them perfectly. My month of coordinator was Jen from Blush & Whim who worked with me and my vendors the entire month before and was there through every step of the day. She is my hero–no joke.
We still get compliments about the wonderful food at our wedding! I’ve honestly never had wedding food that good and Deco outdid themselves with this one. So so yummy and the cheapest option we looked at. We ended up going with a buffet (because I had made carved wooden place cards for everyone and I didn’t want to ruin them by having to paint them or put a sticker on them to indicate a meal choice! Anal, I know.) I have to say, the buffet was better than our plated tasting meal! I swear I’m not just saying that because this was our wedding, it was to die for. My love of donuts came out in full force at our donut bar by Glam Doll Donuts in lieu of a wedding cake. Delicious!
I’m sure you’re all wishing I would just stop talking already and get to the photos… I promise I will, after I mention our AMAZING photographers responsible for all of the lovely images below. Twig and Olive did an incredible job capturing our day despite how cold it was outside and are super fun to work with. You have to share one of the most personal moments of your life with your wedding photographers, they’re there for it all. The tears and laughter, when the Groom who never cries and barely shows emotion ends up melting into a puddle on the ground during the first look, the awkward moment when your dress strap breaks during the first look (yep, it happened). All of these moments are so special and you need people who you feel comfortable sharing these moments with in order to capture the raw feels of the day. Turning feelings into photos is what they do best. Ok ok ok. Here are the pictures!
For more pictures, check out our Wedding Album
Our other incredible vendors:
Makeup: Makeup by Mindie
Tan: Dee’s Spray Tan
Wedding gown: Dimitras Bridal
Hair: Wedding Stylists
Tips for staying sane during the wedding planning process:
1. Don’t stress about the guest list. Pleasing everyone from your future in laws to your parents to friends and your budget is impossible. Feelings are going to get hurt no matter what you do so you might as well do what you want. Don’t want kids? Don’t have em’. Simple as that.
2. Hire a coordinator at LEAST for day of. So many things don’t go as planned during any event you’re planning, the last thing you want to do is be the one to deal with them while you’re trying to enjoy the best day of your life. Let someone else deal with the shuttle that didn’t show up to grab guests from their hotels and cuing your bridal party down the aisle. Hell my dress broke (TWICE) and my wedding coordinator was there with a sewing kit sewing it back together for me!
3. Focus on the things that people remember. Nobody comes up to you 10 years after your wedding and says: “You know what I loved most about your wedding? Your invitations!” Don’t stress the small stuff.
4. Take a walk. Just the two of you. The day is packed with making sure you talk to everyone and thank everyone for coming, dancing, taking photos, running around getting your hair done and making sure your make up is perfect… take a little time for yourselves.
5. Expect that something will go wrong. It may be small, it may be big, but in the end it really doesn’t matter. Several things went wrong throughout our day. As mentioned, the strap on my dress broke during the first look– before pictures, before the ceremony, before anything. Then my maid of honor stepped on my train, putting a hole through it and ripping off the hem. Half of our guests missed the bus to the venue and the order of our bridesmaids during the ceremony was wrong. NONE of it mattered, and we had the time of our lives anyways.
Happy Planning 🙂 Feel free to comment below with any questions!